History, Media

WHAT?! Did feminism even happen or nah?

It’s hard to believe that there are actually women out there that aren’t feminists. It’s hard to believe that some people aren’t feminists.

Last night I overheard something that one of my roommates said while watching Chopped that made me completely cringe. I don’t think she meant it in an anti-feminist way but you be the judge.

“Cooking is just such a commonly female profession, like, women usually are the ones that cook in the home. But there are so many more men doing it.”

Cue the shivers, shakes, and all the bad feels. There are two things wrong with this sentence in my opinion.

First and foremost, the idea that a woman’s place is in the kitchen. It is not. I know she was probably saying that a woman’s place in the past (like the sixties) has been in the kitchen, but very outdated ideology is somehow still there.

Second is the idea that men are somehow not allowed to be taking part in cooking. This is pretty much the basis of equality and freedom. Everyone can do any job they want and look any way they want and act any way they want. Acceptance for all, obvi.

Maybe Chopped brings more male chefs on to the show, who knows. But the point is: why are we pointing this out? If men want to cook, let them cook. If men want to play with Barbie dolls, let them play with Barbie dolls. It’s the same as a woman wanting to be an engineer: let them do it without calling it a “men’s career.” If we keep saying things like that, we’re reinforcing the ideology that some careers (or outfits, or toys, or haircuts) are inherently linked to a specific gender.

Pointing out the past is one thing, inferring it’s a shame that things have progressed is another – and it’s not okay. (Insert clenched fist emoji here)

Sorry to get all real and ish. I just had to get it out there.




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Media, Social Media

I’m online dating. Lol.

Online dating. Realistically, that’s how my generation dates now. Since I’m no longer in college and can’t meet future boyfriends after six (teen) tequila shots at a Cinco de Mayo party (shouts to you, Deacon), I guess I’m officially venturing into the world of online dating and apps.

Disclaimer: I’ve actually been “online dating” for a few months, but I haven’t really documented my experiences.

So what apps are on my phone, you ask?

Tinder: With the release of it’s new paid premium version it kind of sucks. I haven’t yet hit my “no more matches until you pay” screen, yet, but I’m just assuming. I downloaded Tinder about a year ago and used it pretty hardcore during my last semester of college and even throughout the summer. After that I sort of deleted it off-and-on based on when I was the most bored. I met a sex friend I endearingly call “Finance Bro” on Tinder around last April and we “hung out” until about October-ish. At least now I can say I’ve hooked up in an office in the Pru?

OkCupid: Ugh. It’s a love-hate relationship with this one. I’ve actually gone on some pretty decent dates off this app, but the amount of creepy/persistent/awkward messages I get may or may not make it worth it. It seems like about 1/5 of guys on this app actually want to date, 1/5 are looking for a hookup (go to Tinder, bros), 1/5 are just perpetual online pen pals that never actually ask you out, and 1/5 are in a relationship and looking for a third party to join in on the fun, and the other 1/5 just cant take a hint when you ignore their three messages saying “hey.”

Happn: I’m actually excited about this new app. It started in France (and, like, they understand love, right?) and it basically does what Tinder does – uses your location to match you with people. Except it shows you how many times you’ve “crossed paths” with someone. The only problem I’ve noticed is that I take the train every morning, so it matches me with people who live/work/exist along the routes my train takes. I would rather it connect to Facebook events or something where you could actually pinpoint where you’ve crossed paths, instead of “Near Saint Botolph St, 02115 Boston.” But that’s okay. I’ll give it a chance. No bites so far (not sure if that’s good or bad) but I’m excited to see what becomes of it here in Boston. Will I become a trendsetter??!! That’s only sort of my life goal.

Well, wish me luck?